Unveiling the Art of Positive Discipline

Snigdha Dash

Throughout my years in school, when someone mentioned “discipline,” I couldn’t help but recall the image of being told to put a finger on my lips and sit quietly. However, as I reflect on those moments, I realize that discipline played a crucial role in shaping my success today.

So, what is discipline all about? It’s more than just staying quiet; it’s the art of training your mind and body to control actions, follow rules, and exhibit positive behaviour.

I recently learned that in Japanese schools, students don’t face exams until the fourth grade. The focus isn’t on testing knowledge but on instilling good manners and building character in those early years. This emphasis on teaching manners before diving into academic knowledge is commendable.

Now, the question arises: Is instilling good manners a one-time affair in childhood, or is it an ongoing process? The responsibility falls on both parents and teachers, who play pivotal roles in a child’s growth and learning.

As Heraclitus wisely stated, “There is nothing permanent except change.” Dealing with children has evolved, with various methods like play-based learning and positive reinforcement contributing to making discipline a lifelong journey.

Let’s explore a few practical scenarios:

• • Speaking Politely: Acknowledge and showcase students who consistently speak politely. A star on the display board for these students becomes a source of motivation for others, not just at school but also at home and in public places.

• • Punctuality: Encourage the habit of reaching school on time by applauding punctual students. Mentor teachers must set the example by being punctual themselves.

• • Active Listening: Promote and reward active listening among students. Recognize and celebrate instances where students engage attentively in class discussions, ask thoughtful questions, and demonstrate understanding. This not only enhances their discipline but also fosters a positive learning environment.

• • Teamwork and Collaboration: Emphasize the importance of teamwork and collaboration. Encourage group activities and projects that require students to work together towards a common goal. Recognize and commend instances where students effectively collaborate, showcasing discipline in coordinating efforts and respecting diverse opinions.

• • Cleanliness and Organization: Instil the habit of cleanliness and organization in children beyond school and home routines. For instance, Maria’s parents encouraged her to tidy up her play area after each use, fostering discipline and creating a conducive space for imaginative play.

• • Healthy Screen Time Habits: In today’s digital age, managing screen time is crucial. Set limits and create a schedule for both study and recreational use. Consider the case of Alex, whose parents established a rule of completing homework before indulging in screen-based activities, instilling discipline in time management.

• • Encouraging Decision-Making: Discipline involves teaching children to make thoughtful decisions. Sarah’s parents involved her in decisions like choosing her clothes for the day or planning a weekend family activity, imparting a sense of responsibility and nurturing creative thinking.

• • Balancing Routine with Flexibility: While routines are essential for discipline, allow room for spontaneity and exploration. Jake’s parents maintained a daily routine but dedicated weekends to unstructured play and creative projects, balancing discipline with creativity.

• • Cultivating a Growth Mindset: Discipline should not stifle a child’s curiosity. Introduce the concept of a growth mindset, emphasizing that mistakes are opportunities for growth. Emily’s teacher celebrated mistakes in class, creating an environment where discipline coexisted with the freedom to explore new ideas.

“In the magical world of a new school year, where nursery rhymes and giggles filled the air, the excited principal, beaming with energy, asked the little ones a rhyming question: “What did you learn today?” In the midst of their first day of school chaos, the kids, not quite grasping the principal’s importance, were busy with their own adventures. Still, the principal persisted with his cheerful questioning. After a few tries, a bold little student stood up from the sea of small desks and said, “Today, we learned to ‘Keep Quiet.'” Laughter filled the room as this candid admission exposed the charming struggle of guiding the new new, pint-sized learners.” Dr B Singh, Patron, Prizdale Ourja

At home, focus on learning by doing and showing. If you want your child to keep their belongings in order after school, demonstrate the same when you return from work. There’s no fixed method, but it’s essential to practice what we preach, especially with little ones.

A story about Gandhiji illustrates this point beautifully. When asked to advise a child against eating too much sugar, Gandhiji requested the mother to return in two weeks. Why the delay? Gandhiji confessed, “Two weeks ago, I was still eating too much sugar myself.” Leading by example is a powerful teacher.

In the beginning of my career, one Monday, as a class rule, I was checking the nails, uniform, and shoes of all my students. After some time, suddenly one student came and by showing my big nails asked me, ‘Mam, every Monday you want us to trim our nails. But why are your nails so big in size?’ I tried replying but could satisfy neither her nor myself. The next day I went to school as per her requirement (after trimming my nails). The smile on her face said it all.

In today’s changing landscape, discipline involves sacrifices, stepping out of comfort zones, and perhaps a bit of scolding. However, these efforts are geared towards forming good habits and instilling positive values.

As Michael J. Fox wisely notes, “Discipline is just doing the same right thing the right way whether anyone is watching or not.” Let’s collaboratively lay the foundation for a disciplined and successful life, starting from childhood.

In promoting discipline, it’s essential to recognize that it should act as a guiding force rather than a restrictive one. Discipline should empower children to think freely, encouraging them to question, explore, and create. The goal is to cultivate a disciplined mindset that enhances their natural creativity.

As we shape the foundations of discipline for our children, let’s ensure it becomes a tool for empowerment, allowing them to navigate the world with both order and imagination. After all, the true essence of discipline lies in harmonizing structure with the boundless potential of a child’s imagination.

In promoting discipline, it’s essential to recognize that it should act as a guiding force rather than a restrictive one. Discipline should empower children to think freely, encouraging them to question, explore, and create. The goal is to cultivate a disciplined mindset that enhances their natural creativity.

As we shape the foundations of discipline for our children, let’s ensure it becomes a tool for empowerment, allowing them to navigate the world with both order and imagination. After all, the true essence of discipline lies in harmonizing structure with the boundless potential of a child’s imagination.

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